“Do what you will, this life’s a fiction/And is made up of contradiction.”
– William Blake
Today I watched a video from Infinite Waters on YouTube; How to Overcome Insecurities in Relationships at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IrIyuPJjttw&playnext=1&list=PLAB3161E7D42BBED1&feature=results_video
and he talked about the reason people experience insecurity in their personal relationships. The reason, he expressed, is lack of a nurturing relationship with self. His beautiful and insightful presentation inspired thoughts about B.S. Belief Systems.
What are belief systems?
They are like operating programs that makes a computer functional. They constitute ideas and thoughts that are deemed important or for some reason are encoded as truth. They are the reason behind thought, feeling, and appearance. We literally are what we believe we are on the physical plane.
If a person believes he is unattractive he will be exactly that. No amount of outer confirmation will be capable of convincing him of anything different than what he believes. Many people are right now sharing a relationship with someone who is insecure, while they themselves are insecure, and are probably wondering what is wrong with themselves or their significant other.
Why isn’t love being equally reciprocated? What can be changed to turn the situation favorable?
Infinitewaters advises establishing an intimate relationship with yourself and working towards understanding your connection to the cosmos to sooth common relationship discomforts.
Earlier, I watched a YouTube video of Alan Watts, The Pathetic Fallacy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gOAbCCJjD_U&feature=em-subs_digest-vrecs. In this video he discussed life as a theatrical event taking place all in one moment, presented as what most of us mean when we say real life, but is really nothing more than God expressed as each of us playing the role we’ve decided to play.
According to Alan, people in general want to be loved and want to be attended to. As children we learn the rules and boundaries of the role we play and often play multiple roles according to the feedback we get from those who are outside of ourselves.
Also, we learn ways to call attention to ourselves without violating boundaries of social institutions; and those of us who completely disregard societal boundaries are placed in safe keeping because of unpredictability. Society likes for people and things to be predictable. When they aren’t, people don’t know what to expect and this makes them frightened or annoyed.
He said think of a child howling for attention. The adult’s natural reaction is to attempt to stop the annoying sound by attending to the child. For some children, seeking attention in this way earns them experiences they don’t prefer.
Adults are older versions of the children we used to be. Just because you age doesn’t mean you automatically come into full awareness of yourself. You may have never given notice to the role you’ve chosen to play and how it relates to your desire to be attended to.
Alan said some people play the role of being attractive because most humans give attention to what is pleasing to sight. Others play the role of being funny. They understand the necessity of laughing at life and its challenges. Laughter encourages people to relax and draw near to those talented in the art of humor. Then, there are helpful people who attract attention by lightening the loads of others. Weird is another role played in human life. These are people who demonstrate living beyond societal barriers. People are easily bored with mundane life and are attracted to interesting difference, as long as they feel safe in doing so. No matter what role is played, it is done in a way that in some way satisfies the human need for attention.
There are innate flawed beliefs imbedded within each human role. In a nutshell, it is the belief of separation. We tend to feel alone in our own skin so we put our all into being what is believed to ease this feeling. The company of others can satisfy the hunger of the ego, but not the craving of the soul.
When a person relies on outer beauty as the means to gain attention and approval of others they tend to suffer with unattended emotions because they are ‘loved’ for their beauty. I typed loved in quotations because true love can’t manifest as a relationship based on outer beauty. Anything outside of self exists outside of the source of true love. That is why one would feel internal separation and unsatisfied longing. Beauty that doesn’t fade or need enhancing comes from the inside out.
Have you ever encountered someone wearing stylish attire, possessing all of the latest social toys, displaying all of the correct social presentations, and still you noticed something quite unattractive about them?
“Beauty is only skin deep.”
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”
Those are two phrases/quotes that come to mind when I think of beauty. I’m right now looking at the second one from a different perspective than I have. I once thought it only meant someone who is unattractive to one or many can be beautiful to another.
To behold means to see, observe, witness. Scientists and spiritualists are now proposing observation as the source of results. Carefully handled tedious experiments have shown profound connections between observer and what is observed. Check out what Wikipedia says about it.
Beliefs Systems play a significant role in the definitions people hold about all of life. They are a collection of thoughts based on experiences and emotional reactions to experiences that are based on thoughts and beliefs, also known as Belief Systems. As observer and what is observed your belief systems feed on each other creating the intricate circle of your life.
The beauty of Belief Systems is they can be changed. It is one thing for a person to change his/her personal beliefs to conform to the environment in which they live. It is altogether different when a set of beliefs are changed because of personal awareness and desire to do so for reasons of integrity with intentions to bring about the greatest state of being in one’s self.
“Amazing Grace” is a Christian hymn with words written by the English poet and clergyman John Newton (1725–1807), published in 1779. Containing a message that forgiveness and redemption are possible regardless of sins committed and that the soul can be delivered from despair through the mercy of God, “Amazing Grace” is one of the most recognizable songs in the English-speaking world.
Newton wrote the words from personal experience. He grew up without any particular religious conviction, but his life’s path was formed by a variety of twists and coincidences that were often put into motion by his recalcitrant insubordination.
He was pressed (forced into service involuntarily) into the Royal Navy, and after leaving the service became involved in the Atlantic slave trade. In 1748, a violent storm battered his vessel so severely that he called out to God for mercy, a moment that marked his spiritual conversion. However, he continued his slave trading career until 1754 or 1755, when he ended his seafaring altogether and began studying Christian theology.
Read the entire article here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amazing_Grace
Why would anyone desire to change their Belief System?
The reasons vary as there are an abundant array of people. A condensed answer is they want to feel better. Anna Sayce, author of Psychic But Sane website http://www.psychicbutsane.com/positive-thinking-and-healing/cord-cutting-a-spiritual-technology-that-changed-my-life talked about changing belief systems as ‘cord cutting’. She gives details on her beliefs about why people choose to cut cords and who they form these need-to-be-cut cords with.
What are cords and why cut them?
A cord is a negative energetic structure that ties you and another person together.
What is cord cutting?
Cord-cutting is a process that severs that negative attachment between you and another person so that the shadow of that past relationship does not hang over you or affect your behavior in the present.
Who do we form cords to?
Most major cords are formed with:
Lovers, spouses (exes and present), children, parents, siblings, close friends, sexual abusers, any sexual partners.
More minor cords are often formed with:
Clients, teachers, bosses, co-workers, friends, acquaintances.
How does cord-cutting happen?
An effective cord-cutting process will usually involve at least 10 steps and will take at least 35-40 minutes.
I believe every human, on some level, desire to operate at optimum performance. Many over and under achievers would benefit from knowing all it takes to operate at the highest possible level of existence is to operate beyond the boundaries of flesh. The operating programs of humans are internal apparatuses. Belief in what is desired on the highest level of awareness must be exercised to experience. Many of us exercise beliefs in what is undesired and during those times life feels like hell. Living becomes one struggle and challenge after another. This sad saga develops a template for the stories we tell about ourselves and others.
Countless people have entered into this world, experienced its bittersweet sting, and desired to make it a better place. Do you remember the song, We Are The World? If you don’t or would like to hear it and watch the video it is here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4ZkInzIJcw
I am a part of the world and so are you. Together, we are the world. We are the children. I am giving my love through Kreative Inspirations, which at the heart of the organization is simply me being me. I’m sending my heart through all that I do so that you’ll know someone cares; someone you don’t need to know for them to love you. I wish you the very best life has to offer. It is my intention to continue to offer gifts of inspiration and motivation to encourage GREATER YOU.
We Are The World lyrics (from http://www.lyrics007.com):
There comes a time when we heed a certain call
When the world must come together as one
There are people dying
And it’s time to lend a hand to life
The greatest gift of all
We can’t go on pretending day by day
That someone, somewhere will soon make a change
We are all a part of Gods great big family
And the truth is, you know,
Love is all we need
We are the world, we are the children
We are the ones who make a brighter day
So let’s start giving
There’s a choice we’re making
We’re saving our own lives
Its true we’ll make a better day
Just you and me
Send them your heart so they’ll know that someone cares
And their lives will be stronger and free
As God has shown us by turning stones to bread
So we all must lend a helping hand
When you’re down and out, there seems no hope at all
But if you just believe there’s no way we can fall
Let us realize that a change can only come
When we stand together as one
Writer: JACKSON, MICHAEL JOE/RICHIE, LIONEL B., JR./RICHIE, LIONEL B., JR.
Lyrics © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc., Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
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